A helpful guide for family and friends

Trying to conceive (TTC) can be a sensitive and challenging journey, both emotionally and physically. While family and friends often mean well, they might not always be equipped to know how best to support their loved ones who are on their fertility journey. As such, we have compiled some helpful suggestions for you to share with them to ensure you get their understanding and support.

Fact:
Finding explanations as to why someone cannot have a baby takes time. Tests and investigations may not be quick or simple. Solutions and treatment may be complex and costly.
Helpful hint:
Please refrain from asking questions such as "When are you going to have a baby?" They may not know if they can have a child, nor know when it will be. Rather give them space to decide if and when they are ready to talk about their situation.

Fact:
Many factors contribute to infertility coupled with the fact that there are many different treatment options available. Sometimes the solution may be challenging, and what works for one person may not work for another.
Helpful hint:
Infertility is a personal experience and cannot be compared or measured. Try to listen without placing judgment and refrain from comparing their situation to something you may have read or heard.

Fact:
Some people consider infertility to be a private concern. Others find comfort sharing their concerns with close friends and family members. It is normal for people to feel sad, angry, or depressed at times.
Helpful hint:
Respecting someone’s need for privacy will be appreciated, as will offering support if and when they want to talk. Be prepared to accept that sometimes they may feel angry, sad, and depressed.

Fact:
Infertility can make someone feel inadequate and that they have no control over their body.
Helpful hint:
You can offer support by helping them to see their strengths, qualities, and achievements in other areas of their lives.

Fact:
Having one pregnancy or child does not mean it will be easy to fall pregnant again. If one feels their family is incomplete, the result can be devastating and frustrating.
Helpful hint:
Please refrain from saying “You’re lucky to have a child at all.” Rather, offer support by understanding what this means to them.

A compassionate and understanding support system is invaluable for those on their fertility journey. We hope that these helpful hints foster an environment of empathy and kindness.